Married, Moved, and Suddenly Alone:

What No One Told Me About the Quiet Weeks After the Vows

I didn’t expect the silence.

One week, I signed marriage papers.
Two days later, I moved into a new house.
A home that technically belonged to us,
but still felt like his.

And just like that, a few days later —
he was gone.
Not permanently.
Not painfully.
Just away for two months.
With his mother.
Back to our home country.

I waved goodbye with a smile I meant,
but didn’t know that smile would be the last real expression I’d feel for a while.

Here’s the thing no one tells you about fresh marriages:
It’s not just about love.
It’s about becoming.
And sometimes, that becoming happens... alone.

The first few days, I filled the silence.
Unpacking. Organizing.
Making lists of things I’d buy.
Lighting candles.
Playing music so it wouldn’t feel so quiet.

But the quiet always finds you eventually.

I thought marriage would be filled with companionship.
And yet here I was —
newly married,
newly moved in,
utterly... alone.

I missed his presence in small ways.
His voice in the morning.
The sound of the door unlocking.
Someone to talk to while eating dinner.

But it was deeper than that.

I missed the feeling of being known.
Of someone reaching across the couch and simply seeing me.

Loneliness in marriage feels different.
It’s not the same as being single.
You have someone — but they’re not here.
You’re not technically alone — but emotionally?
You feel like you're floating in space.

And yet, in that floating, I’ve found something precious.

A space where I get to meet me.
Where I cry if I need to.
Eat toast at 11PM.
Leave things undone.
Write.
Heal.
Become.

Marriage is not just about showing up for someone else.
It’s also about showing up for yourself
— especially when no one else is in the room.

So, if you’re reading this, and you’re in the in-between too —
Between excitement and ache,
between becoming and belonging,
between silence and connection —
I see you.

You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re simply in the part no one posts about.

And it’s still love.
Even here.

Soft Warrior Reflection
What part of me is trying to speak now that the world has gone quiet?

If this speaks to you, leave a heart in the comments — or share this with someone who feels alone in their new beginning. You’re not alone.