Hello, soft warriors 🤍

Sometimes in life, we already know what to do and even how to do it — yet we still don’t move.

We miss the timing. Or we avoid facing our insecurity and ego.

These parts of ourselves are uncomfortable to sit with, but they are necessary. At some point, they must be faced so we can move forward and grow.

Most of the time, we don’t fail because we tried and lost. We fail because we stop in the middle — or because we never act at all.

Many of us were raised with the idea that perfection equals safety. If we fail, we feel shame. And shame is heavy. When we cannot carry it, we choose inaction instead.

Once shame appears, fear follows — fear of being judged, fear of losing trust, fear of society repeating the same narrative about us again and again until it becomes our identity.

Living in a Western society has shown me a different perspective. Failure is normalised here. Trying is encouraged. Judgment is softer.

This creates space — space to focus on ourselves, to learn, and to grow without constantly measuring our worth through society’s expectations.

This is also why it is so important to let children explore while they are still young. Before they understand the concepts of shame and failure. Before fear limits their curiosity.

Protecting children is natural. But over-shielding them can create confusion later in life — when they are suddenly expected to make decisions, stand up for themselves, or act in difficult situations without having built those muscles.

Decision-making is a skill. Like any skill, it improves with practice. The more decisions we make, the better we become at making them.

Making a wrong decision is not a disaster. It is data. It teaches us what does not work, so next time, we choose differently.

Growth does not come from avoiding mistakes. It comes from learning through them.

This is the Soft Warrior way — gentle, reflective, and brave enough to keep moving forward. 🤍